A Smiling Young Widow

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  • Dancing in Duality

    The week after Tom’s funeral I listened to my mom try to access her credit card account over the phone and fail every one of her own security questions. I… Read more

  • A Love That Stays: Reflections on Milestones

    This week brought with it a quiet realization that I’ve now carried the title of Tom’s widow longer than I carried the title of Tom’s wife. Of course I’ll always… Read more

  • To Blog or Not to Blog … Version 2.0

    In her book Resilient Grieving, Dr. Lucy Hone suggests a key question to ask yourself: “Is this helping or hindering my grieving process?” I first shared that question over two… Read more

  • Anxiety: The Missing Stage of Grief

    This is the title Claire Bidwell Smith gave to her book, and honestly it rings very true –though of course with the caveat that there really are no linear stages… Read more

  • The Overwhelming Presence of an Absence

    The holidays can hit hard. It’s a bit like the love bombing of Valentine’s day, but this is a long season that seems to almost pressure cook our grief. I’ve… Read more

  • You Are Doing This Right

    I sat at a table with three people I barely knew, just chatting. We’d been talking about pets when one of them shared, “I’d choose my dog over my husband… Read more

  • Time Marches On, How Rude

    I watched one yellow leaf slowly fall from a tree as a slight breeze ruffled, and I was hit by a huge wave of missing Tom. I wished we could… Read more

  • Wrestling with Impermanence

    I went to turn on the air purifier in our room, expecting to hear the humming of the machine as I turned the dial. But I didn’t. Oh it was… Read more

  • Moving Forward: One Tiny Step at a Time

    As time goes on the finality of this settles in a bit more and I’ve needed to navigate moving forward. That opens up the question, how do I exist in… Read more

  • The Power of Stories

    This week some of the wild turkeys that live behind our house stopped by the yard. When we moved into this house it was a very common conversation with friends… Read more

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