A Smiling Young Widow

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  • Secondary Losses: I Haven’t Just Lost My Person 

    We don’t talk much about secondary losses — all the other losses that come as a result of a primary loss (e.g. death). When I laid next to Tom in… Read more

  • All of a Sudden Everyone Has an Opinion 

    The opinions. The comments. The gossip. I didn’t expect that, but man it has beomce a part of my grief journey.  It honestly feels quite terrible to be talked about or… Read more

  • Go Figure, Grief Still Won’t Take a Break

    There’s been a lot going on for me this last little bit. Mostly things the outside world wouldn’t actually see as being a lot, and my old self wouldn’t have flinched… Read more

  • Like a Buffalo: Reflections on the One Year

    One year without my Tom. I survived the first anniversaries and all the regular ol days of the past year too. It is still surreal. Likely some of it I… Read more

  • Organ Donation

    April 7th is green shirt day, a day to talk about organ donation. Well I unfortunately have much more experience with organ and tissue donation now. I remember quite clearly… Read more

  • Things will get worse?

    I remember the first time I read how the second year of widowhood tends to be harder to get through. I was a few months into widowhood at that point.… Read more

  • Death Admin Part 2: My Advice

    I wrote about some of my experiences dealing with admin tasks after Tom died. Here’s a part two where I’ll share a bit of my advice, from the <almost> other… Read more

  • Oh You’ll Need These Shoes Again

    I was a traveling widow again this month, gone for just over two weeks. I was really ready to get home by the end. That is weird for me, a… Read more

  • Death Admin Part 1: My Experience

    It’s a painful process to tackle all the admin that comes after losing a spouse. I have lots to rant about and lots to share. I’ve been forced to learn… Read more

  • Ms. Independent

    I’ve been grumpy lately. Trying to deal with bank stuff this past week has put me on edge (my ranting about post-death admin). Then just normal life stuff gets frustrating.… Read more

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