A Smiling Young Widow

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  • Love with No Place to Go

    Another widow described Valentine’s as a day full of “love bombing”. I appreciated that wording. A day that kinda slaps you across the face. All the reminders from the world… Read more

  • Normal Life Things

    I went to the dentist. A good, normal life thing for me to do. My friendly hygienist was just back from mat leave. As we walked to the chair we… Read more

  • Haircut Day

    I somehow became the official hairdresser of our house, doing Frank’s haircuts and then Tom’s too. At first I was pretty against doing Tom’s. Frank has had some rough haircuts… Read more

  • Grief Math

    When did he die? How long were you married? Did you have any children? I listened to a podcast that talked about the math of suffering. It resonated with me… Read more

  • Grief vs Mourning

    Early on in this mess, I felt like I was a total mess. My emotions and my grief took over constantly. At the hospital I crawled into Tom’s bed sobbing.… Read more

  • A Heart Broken Open

    Heart break, of course, goes hand-in-hand with loss. I joined an online yoga for grief support class, and one week focused on the heart. We were invited to consider the… Read more

  • Poop and Ashes

    I had a to-do list on the go for what I wanted to remember to do before leaving for the holidays in December. My list included: “ashes” and “poop scoop”.… Read more

  • Cold Snap

    Tom was never cold. I am always cold. Tom would tell stories with a chuckle about someone at work complaining about the cold and then getting upset that Tom hadn’t… Read more

  • Pancakes

    This morning I woke up and decided today would be the day I made myself pancakes for the first time since Tom died. I cried, laughed, and thought of my… Read more

  • The Physicalness of Grief

    A few weeks ago I spent a few days in a row trying to decide if I had caught the flu or if this was just the ongoing stress of… Read more

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